Let’s Get Real.
If you’ve ever rolled your eyes at a personality system that felt “woo-woo” or overcomplicated, you’re not alone. I focus on making the Enneagram approachable, practical, and… :gasp:* …fun.
At the end of the day, the Enneagram is a fantastic tool that grows relationships, strengthens communication, and improves leadership. If it helps you, use it! If it doesn’t, be like NSYNC and say “Bye bye bye.”
Hi! I’m Abbey — Enneagram Speaker, Author, and Your New Self-Discovery BFF.
Growing up, I was *that* theater kid. Yes, full-on Rachel Berry from Glee vibes.
The one blasting Barbara Streisand and devouring Greek tragedies (an iconic duo) while everyone else was IM-ing cute boys and voting for the next American Idol.
My friends were sick of hearing me say, “I can’t. I have rehearsal.”
But that was my happy place. Because I had found purpose: understanding people. And what better way to do that than by becoming them—exploring how they think, move, speak, and feel.
I took that fascination into formal study, earning a degree in drama from UC Irvine, studying Shakespeare at Oxford, and pursuing film and TV in Los Angeles.
Along the way, I started a YouTube channel making sketch comedy about things that intrigued me. Naturally, I started acting out different Enneagram types and imagining how they’d respond in various scenarios (getting fired, on a blind date, dealing with roommates… you name it. I’ve probably made a video about it).
The online response blew me away: comments like “This is me” and “I’ve never felt more seen in my life” made it clear this tool could truly change lives. That revelation pushed me to get certified as an Enneagram coach.
Since then, I’ve taught over 75 teams across six countries, reached thousands online with 10M+ video views and 250k+ followers, and helped everyone from college students to executives.
My people-first approach combines storytelling, performance, and guided conversation to help people truly see themselves and others, making the takeaways stick in a way that’s practical, memorable, and, often, hilarious.
Here’s what people are saying about my teaching style:
DON’T JUST TAKE MY WORD FOR IT
“An absolute delight.”
– Jessica Daniels, Security Benefit
“Combined deep knowledge with humor and patience.”
– Carolyn Spaht Gonzalez, Chief of Staff, LAUSD
“Great mix of knowledge and fun.”
– Jenni Olowo, BCS Together
“Relatable stories, great questions, and thoughtful team activities.”
— Mike Frisch, Active Churches
“Really good at singing Wheels on the Bus and making me laugh.”
– My son, probably
What Made This Type 3 Weep Like a Little Baby
I was brand new to the Enneagram and still trying to find my type. When I read about the core motivations of a Type Three, I burst into tears.
All those confusing (and kinda cringey) things about myself that I never fully understood?
Suddenly, they popped into focus.
This personality typing system was like nothing I had ever experienced before. Instead of focusing on what you do, the Enneagram looks at why you do it, the internal motivations running the show beneath the surface.
Why do you chase certain goals?
Why does approval matter so much?
Why does slowing down feel like you’re a failure with a capital F?
Learning my Enneagram type opened up a whole new world.
Rather than tying my worth entirely to external validation (*cough* my parents being proud of me *cough*), I was invited to look at patterns I didn’t even realize I had and ask why they existed in the first place. And the Enneagram helped me figure out how to change them.
So I went from an introspection-phobic workaholic with a scrapbooking addiction to a more curious, self-compassionate, and self-aware human.
Still with a scrapbooking addiction. (Some things never change.)
(Also, if you want to bond over stickers and paper, LMK)